The article above details how the author was involved with an abusive (emotionally and verbal) relationship. But in particular the author was baffled as to how she in particular got involved because she was a feminist and an anti domestic violence advocate.
Reading the story, I kept having the same thought, ‘but how was this suppose to prevent you from being in an abusive relationship**?
Feminism, as has been repeated ad nauseam, is the belief that men and women are equals. THAT’S IT.
But in addition to it’s professed definition, there are apparently several underlying assumptions. One of these assumptions is that by adhering to the ideology of feminism women will be protected from gendered harm.
But as the author discovered, it doesn’t.
I wandered if the author dedicated herself to feminism not just to help women but to help herself. Several times throughout the article, the author confessed to her own weaknesses and foibles. Did she cling to feminism because she thought that she had found sometime to make her whole, to keep her safe?
Will the author or should I say will feminism address this deficit in their ideology?
I have my doubts that it will. So far, the feminist movement has been immune to correcting itself.
**The author characterized her relationship as ‘abusive’ in today’s parlance but really she was involved with a guy who cheated on her, who was a drifter and he was someone who another person told her was ‘manipulative.’ I’m just saying the title was a bit overstated for my tastes.**